This is a beautiful, yet somewhat of a watered-down version of when I first heard the song.  It was in a tiny church with no heat or electricity, but the congregation sang so passionately that some of them were crying, some wailing, and most were swaying.  I have a video of it, but I don’t feel comfortable sharing such an intimate thing with the world.  

I want to come back to Afrika when I know that I can make a meaningful difference there.  When my skills will be most useful, and when I can make the most of it.  I felt like I was stumbling around in South Africa when I went last, and I would like to return when I can offer something besides my big tourist eyes.  The people I met looked to me for help, and I had nothing at the time to offer, I in turn, learned so much from the people which I hope to return.  Help will come to Afrika, but not through a bunch of white American kids stumbling through it.

Most adult children of toxic parents grow up feeling tremendous confusion about what love means and how it’s supposed to feel. Their parents did extremely unloving things to them in the name of love. They came to understand love as something chaotic, dramatic, confusing, and often painful—something they had to give up their own dreams and desires for. Obviously, that’s not what love is all about.

Loving behavior doesn’t grind you down, keep you off balance, or create feelings of self-hatred. Love doesn’t hurt, it feels good. Loving behavior nourishes your emotional well-being. When someone is being loving to you, you feel accepted, cared for, valued, and respected. Genuine love creates feelings of warmth, pleasure, safety, stability, and inner peace.

Susan Forward, Toxic Parents, p381 (via mxnotmrdarcy)

This also applies to survivors of abusive relationships. 

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Last year I visited the food pantry, this year I visit the garden.


jurassic park from the raptors’ perspective 


dark/pale/glow here


dark/pale/glow here

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working on a piece to go with this 

the companion piece will be male, named Destruction. i’m hoping it turns as well as this has

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You Can't Hurry Love
The Supremes