Most adult children of toxic parents grow up feeling tremendous confusion about what love means and how it’s supposed to feel. Their parents did extremely unloving things to them in the name of love. They came to understand love as something chaotic, dramatic, confusing, and often painful—something they had to give up their own dreams and desires for. Obviously, that’s not what love is all about.


Loving behavior doesn’t grind you down, keep you off balance, or create feelings of self-hatred. Love doesn’t hurt, it feels good. Loving behavior nourishes your emotional well-being. When someone is being loving to you, you feel accepted, cared for, valued, and respected. Genuine love creates feelings of warmth, pleasure, safety, stability, and inner peace.

Susan Forward, Toxic Parents, p381 (via mxnotmrdarcy)

This also applies to survivors of abusive relationships. 

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Last year I visited the food pantry, this year I visit the garden.



coolator:

jurassic park from the raptors’ perspective 



uncorpse:

dark/pale/glow here

uncorpse:

dark/pale/glow here

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beneviolent:

beneviolentskytreader:

"Creation"

working on a piece to go with this 

the companion piece will be male, named Destruction. i’m hoping it turns as well as this has

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You Can't Hurry Love
The Supremes